Think about a person who makes you feel really great when you are around them. What do they do that makes you feel so good? Likely, they probably do some of these things!
Use their name often.
People love to hear their name. It feels good to know that someone knows their name and who they you. It makes them feel known, loved and acknowledged.
Dale Carnegie says this about how important one’s name is:
Remember that a person’s name is, to that person, the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
One’s name is an essential part of their identity. Don’t just use it to get someone’s attention, but use it to boost their self-confidence and make them feel amazing about themselves!
Give them a compliment on something other than their appearance.
It’s rare to receive a comment about something other than one’s appearance. Unfortunately, appearance is one of the first things that we notice about someone. When you take the time to compliment someone’s personality, kindness or actions, it shows that you pay attention to them on a deeper level.The next time you want to give someone a compliment, try one of these:
- You are so important to me.
- You are great at…
- You make me feel happy when I’m around you.
- I love the way that you…
Look them in the eyes.
Stare into their soul. Okay, not in a creepy way, but it really does make a difference! The eyes are the window to the soul, after all.
Psychology Today talks about the connection between eye contact and positive feelings:
“There is more mutual eye contact between friends than others, and a looker’s frank gaze is widely interpreted as positive regard. Lovers really do gaze more into each other’s eyes.”
When someone is sharing something important to them, look them in the eyes. When you say hello, look them in the eyes. After you give them a hug, look them in the eye.
Looking someone in the eyes can make them feel cared for and listened to. When having a conversation with someone, don’t look at your phone, glance around the room or keep checking your watch. Stay in the moment. It really makes all the difference.
Ask them for advice.
People have their own special and unique talents and gifts. Take the time to call that out by asking the people in your life for advice or help with something that they are good at.
For example, if you have a question about how to code something on your blog, ask your tech-savvy friend to help you. If you are having a relationship problem, ask your married friend to give you some advice. If you want to learn how to knit, ask your aunt who knits you a scarf every year for Christmas.
Not only is this helpful for you, but it makes those in your life feel great about themselves. Let their gifts and talents shine!