Here are some things that moms wish they knew before becoming a mom!

I talked to some moms and asked them what they wished they knew before they were moms, so maybe they could pass on some wisdom to those of us who haven’t been blessed with children yet! Here’s what they said…

Plan ahead for maternity leave.

“Maternity leave sucks! I had no idea until I became pregnant just how damaged this system is. There are slim protections and accommodations for pregnant women. Even if you’re not planning on having kids for a while, review your benefits at work in advance! Make sure you know ahead of time which insurance add-ons you need, such as short term disability. Figure out if you’ll need to use your own vacation time or sick leave. Don’t get left hanging when it’s too late!” – Michelle Lugo

Build your self-esteem.

“Being pregnant is a miracle. It also is nine months of bloating, being nauseous, fatigue, and weight gain. You have to be comfortable with your body to keep high spirits during this time. Remind yourself that you are beautiful daily, even if you don’t always feel it.” – Angela Sommers

It’s harder than it looks.

“I want you to know that it is HARD work. Being a mom is the best job in the world, but it can always be the hardest. You have to learn that you need to take care of yourself so you can take care of others. You need to learn that it is OK to let other people love and take care of your children so you can have an hour or two (or more!) of peace and quiet. It doesn’t all have to be on you.” – Amber Allen

It doesn’t have to be perfect.

“Everything will not be perfect. Laundry will go undone. The rooms may be a mess, but that doesn’t mean you are not doing your best.” – Tamara South


Discover yourself now.

“The best way to start finding your passions and interests before parenthood- is before parenthood. You are more likely to carve out time for these passions if they are already established in your life – in turn, making you a better mom and parent.” – Sarah Hosseini

Don’t take everything so personally.

“You don’t really get how life changing being a parent is until you become a parent. If you get a nasty look while your child screams at a pizza place, life will go on. The person glaring isn’t an evil creature. He wants to enjoy dinner with some peace and quiet as much as you wanted out of the house just to be out of the house. It’s all good.” – Tara Goodfellow

Enjoy your energy while you can.

“I would have liked to know that you have much more energy and you can recover much better in your early twenties-mid-twenties from lack of sleep. I am in my late twenties now and, even though I don’t have a difficult baby, I find it hard to get up repeatedly and have to organize special sleep time to have decent energy levels! Having a baby younger does make a difference when it comes to physical strain.” – Gabrielle Tardif

Rally the troops.

“Rally your support system (even if they don’t know what they’re being prepped for). If you want to walk in the park, run to the store, or maybe just pee without a little one hanging out with you like it’s the family room, have a handful of good, solid people to relieve you for a few minutes. Be the friend today that you want and need someone to be for you tomorrow.” – Dana Sims

There’s no such thing as the perfect time to become a mom.

“There is no perfect time to have a child and there is no perfect plan for our lives. As long as you feel emotionally ready, go for it. You will not be held back by your child, you will have a new found motivation. I know plenty of young moms that have wonderful careers, others that have gone into business after having children and some that have been able to find their vocation thanks to the experience of becoming a mom.” –Gabrielle Tardif

related: Why I Read Mommy Blogs (Even Though I’m Not a Mommy)

WAHM, SAHM, working mom…who cares?!

“My advice to young moms is not to feel pressured by any one model of stay-at-home, work-at-home, work-away-from-home, schooling or childcare options. Every family must do what works for them, and that will not be the same for each family. Pray about it, and do what God would show you as the best option for your family. Then be open to change as different seasons in your family and parenting arise.” – Catherine Behrenst

Treat yo self.

“Get in a pattern of treating yourself to something you enjoy just because. Whether you love to fish, crochet, go to the movies, get a massage, make your relaxation a habit. It will be easier to find your happy place apart from stinky bottoms, runny noses, and a house that will never be quite as clean as it once was if you understand what recharges your battery. Your children will learn being an individual and treating themselves well matters.” – Dana Sims

It’s the ultimate learning experience.

“Words cannot describe the profound role of being a mother. You can’t know until you are in it. It is the ultimate learn as you go job: motherhood. And it’s amazing, challenging and gratifying.” – Claire Nicogossian

Moms, what do you wish you knew before you were a mom?


25 thoughts on “13 Things Moms Wish They Knew Before They Had Kids

  1. What wonderful advice–and timely, too! My first baby is due any day now, and I feel like there’s a lot I don’t know. But I do feel as prepared as I think I can be. 🙂 It’s comforting to realize that being a mom is a constant learning process!

    Found you at A Mama’s Story–my first time linking up there! 🙂


  2. Great suggestions for women before they become moms! You’ve shared a lot of wisdom here!

    I came over on Wonderful Wednesday, and I’m glad to find your site.

    Just as an FYI, they do grow up and start their own lives one day. And, you will recoup and recover some of your time and yourself again. I’m in that stage now!

    Hope you have a blessed day~


  3. Awesome suggestion! I personally agree that don’t take things too personally. People will judge you as a mom, your parenting style, even your decision whether to cloth diaper your baby or not. But you are the one who knows the best for your kids.


  4. I’m not currently a mom, but I’d like to be one day so I appreciate you taking the time to make a list like this. I totally agree with you on your second point “build your self esteem”. I think that it is so important for mothers to have confidence in themselves, whether it has to do with their appearance, personality – whatever. I’d never want to pass along my own securities to my children, but I know it’s not exactly easy to get over. Thanks for sharing!


  5. Loving the advice! My husband and I are finding out there really isn’t ever a “good” time to start trying for a family – or maybe it’s always a good time as long as we’re ready 🙂


  6. This is all so true, I had mine a long time ago but some of the unanticipated difficulties are still very fresh in my mind.
    We are lucky here in the UK as our maternity rights are pretty good, We can have up to a year off (with a reduced pay rate) and a job to come back to. Not to say that people don’t have some problems but generally a better environment that you in the US seem to have. I can’t believe you might need to use a disability add on for insurance, having a baby isn’t a disability!


  7. What a great collection of advice! I’m pre-kids too, and I found it very encouraging to read. 🙂 I like the “discover yourself now” one a lot!! SO true, whether or not a person eventually has kids, right?

    Thank you for coming by Free and Fun Friday!! I’m really excited to have you join us. 🙂


  8. Great advice- there’s so much stuff I’d love to tell every new mom…but you don’t “get it” until you have a little of your own. Hardest and most precious job in the world!


  9. What I wish I’d have Known……

    The easiest part about having a disabled child is educating the world about him and taking care of him. The hardest part is advocating for his needs and filling out paperwork. EVERYONE could end up with a special needs child. NO ONE is exempt.


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